I believe that we should never chase love, affection, or attention. If it’s not given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having. Every time a friend or someone goes through a difficult situation and needs a piece of advice this is always my response and it always makes them feel better. I might be young and people say that I haven’t experienced anything, but what they don’t know is what I have gone through. 


I had learned this from my most important relationship to date. My belief came about one night when I was in my room crying my heart out when I had finally realized I had lost the person I thought was my life. The person who I loved the most and I had given everything to. In the beginning, our relationship was like any other, it was the most wonderful experience in life. I couldn’t fall asleep at night because reality was finally better than my dreams. After months of going out, things started to change. Instead of being the one who got the attention or love, I became the one who chased him. Like any other girl, I felt the need to get a kiss or a hug from my “babe”, yet most times I needed him I didn’t find him available. Every girl needs a reminder that she is beautiful and special. We all need that someone who is there even if we tell them not to, we need them to be there during the good and bad, but we shouldn’t have to ask for it. At this point I didn’t realize that now I was the only one giving instead of receiving.  


I haven’t yet overcome this feeling. I don’t hate him but I cant say I love him the same way I did. Besides, at one point he did give me all the attention and love, at that point everything was real. In the end we had to do what was best for ourselves, no matter how painful it was. Cry, forgive and learn from experience in order to plant the seed for our future happiness. As teens our love is considered “puppy love”. Maybe it is true, but it’s the same kind of pain. Most of us have gone through something like this and the only thing I can tell someone when they are feeling this kind of pain is this. I’ll tell them how I have gone through this and that it is better to love yourself, talk to your heart because there is always that one person waiting for you to find them. I’ve also learned to take things at a slow pace. I’d rather die waiting and receive true love with out lies even if it hurts more rather then to live a life of lies that will only cause more pain.


This I Believe.